The Courage to Be You

What is your "way of being" in a group setting? Do you feel inferior, intimidated, shy or even empty? Are you constantly comparing and rating yourself on whatever scale applies at the time; success, wealth, looks, intelligence, skills, ethics, dedication and personality?

What if you could give all that up and have freedom to be relaxed and comfortable? You can!

It takes courage, though. It's about being comfortable with ourselves no matter what. In spite of ourselves. Did you know one of our greatest fears, especially for men, is someone will discover who we really are? Yikes!


They'll find out we aren't the person we portray oureselves to be. Funny thing, neither are they. We seldom know we are pretending to be someone else, because it has just been part of how making it in the world is done.

I spent years being afraid to have the biggies in town over to my house for fear of not appearing as successful as I thought I should be. Did I realize I thought this way? Not really. Probably wouldn't have admitted it to myself even if I did.

How do you bridge the gap from trying to be what we think and have been taught we should be... to being authentic and exceptional?

Acceptance! Accept who you are right now. Oh yes, all of your faults and shortcomings with every single weakness thrown it as well. You can do it. Your reward is freedom from false beliefs, fears, timidity, low self-esteem and yourself.

You are all you need to be right now at this very moment. You have what it takes to do whatever is next on your journey. I'm not saying you have what's needed for next month or year, but that will come taking one step at a time.

The very next step is all that matters. You have enough and are enough already to do just that.

We are the ones that hold ourselves back the most, not our faults and shortcomings. Everybody has those and in abundance. You just don't think they do. Isn't it a pure joy to be around someone who is completely comfortable with themselves and humbly so?

Think what just their presence portrays and the positive energy they send off. Society tells us to be impressed with stature, ego, titles, responsibility, and wealth. You know deep inside, now really think about it, those things hold no true substance, joy, or happiness.

Aren't joy and happiness what we all work so hard for? You find it on the inside especially when you decide to be really courageous and uncover more of the authentic you.



Be less of who you think you should be and move towards the naked truth of the authentic you. Decide on the courage to by you.

Why It's Important to Know What You Want

Do you clearly know what you want in all parts of your life? Or is your focus on what you don't want. I don't want to be fat or I don't want to be poor or I don't want to lose clients. Have you ever thought about it?

We are trained and programmed (see this post) to think mostly about what we don't want. When we do, we are attempting to "move away from" that which is undesirable. Wrong method. Thinking about not being fat is still thinking about fat, which is negative and disempowering. Also, your mind will naturally look for more reasons why you are fat.

But if you know what you clearly want and focus towards that desire you will move in that direction. Great Olympians don't think about how they might fail. They power focus and visualize themselves succeeding and winning. "Moving towards something" is always smarter, more successful and powerful than moving away from what you don't want.

Works with managing as well. Help your associates understand what you want from them, rather than criticizing for doing what you don't want. Move them towards what you desire and your results will be remarkable.

Knowing what you want and getting it requires the mind set of thinking that same direction. It's about changing a habit, so it will be difficult like anything else with a significant reward.